Top Ten List Of What To Do And What Not To Do In Relationships
Most of us who have been intimately involved with someone beyond the infatuation stage know that relationships are like a rollercoaster ride. When things are good, they are very, very good. When things are bad, they are very, very bad. As a relationship coach, I have developed Top 10 Lists—one for men and one for women on 10 things to do and not to do in relationships.
MEN
DO
1. Just listen to your partner without offering advice.
2. Trust and respect her.
3. Tre…
You Can Improve Your Relationship
It seems as if creating successful relationships with our significant others and parenting children are two of the most difficult jobs we face and yet we get no formal training in either. It’s as if people believe that we are born with an inherent ability to do these two things. Yet, look around us. In the US, the divorce rate is slightly over 50%! I don’t know anywhere but baseball where a 50% average is a good thing.
Couples go through life getting along when times are g…
If You Were Chief Boss Of The World, Are You Gonna Be Really Happy?
Have you Ever Run Into Those Little Tyrants? The little guys who think they can step on everyone’s toes?
Did you realize that the only people who seem to be power-hungry are those who don’t have any. Once you attain power, it becomes a burden. This statement comes from many of those minds that rose to power, thinking that happiness would follow, and were highly disappointed.
There are some people who derive pleasure from ordering others around, but they’re just insecure…
Making Your Wishes Come True
Recently, a client came to me and told me, “I feel really discouraged. None of my wishes ever come true. No matter what I try, nothing ever comes of them. They’re just wishes and hopes that never come true. Help!” He told me he’s tired of the “Same Old-Same Old”, but doesn’t know how to turn his wishes into reality. That is the subject for this column. Here’s my advice to him:
See your desires as goals, not wishes. Wishes imply that you need the Good Fairy to wai…
Self Control – There Is “NUN” Better
Going to a Catholic Grammar School for 9 years had its benefits. We had to wear uniforms so there wasn’t any clothes competition, we went to church all the time so we got some formal spiritual training, you couldn’t even think of using profanity because you thought the nuns read your mind and would find out what you were thinking, we learned good penmanship, we were respectful, compliant, and responsible. The crazy thing is no one gave me a choice in any of these areas I was …
What Is The Prerequisite For Creating A Life Of Success?!
How many times have you blamed circumstances and make excuses for not being successful?
You can create tons of excuses for not being successful but nothing will change.
Blaming makes you feel like a victim with no power or control over your life or destiny.
Blaming and making excuses will destroy your energy and vitality and leave you with a feeling of frustration and desperation.
Your life will not change until you take 100% responsibility of your life.
You mu…
4 Psychological Needs Help Deal With Conflict
Have you ever been plagued by doubts and internal conflict? Do you wonder why people in your life react differently causing arguments and difficulties? Find out what causes these conflicts and what you can do about them.
Control Your Own Level of Motivation
Do you want an inexpensive life coach? Discover a simple formula for keeping your moods upbeat.
How to Set Intentions that Energize You
Without a clearcut intention, we’re reactive and don’t get around to doing the important things when we want them done. Instead, we spend our time fighting random fires. Intentions are like the steering wheel on your car. Their whole purpose is to give you control over where you’re going. But how — specifically — will you put your mission into action today? What will you actually DO about your highest intentions?
Control, Helplessness, and Love
During my 35 years of counseling individuals, couples, families and business partners, I have discovered that an important purpose of our controlling behavior in our relationships is to avoid the feeling of helplessness. One of the hardest feelings to feel is helplessness. Most of us are unwilling to even know what we are and are not helpless over.