Relationship Test – Are You Happier Being Alone?
Many of us are of the types who are happy being alone. If such persons enter into any relationship it will invariably fail.
Are You Persevering Or Enduring?
Why try to make a distinction between perseverance and endurance? In both perseverance and endurance, we may struggle at times, feel fear of failure or rejection, or worry that we are not worthy of what we long for. So the distinction between perseverance and endurance can easily get blurred.
But perseverance and endurance take us down different roads so they are worth distinguishing. Endurance will lead us to a dead end whereas perseverance, although it may take us down a…
From Loneliness To Connection
Dear Jane, I know a lot of people as acquaintances but I don’t seem to have close friends anymore. Everyone seems too busy. Sometimes I’m too busy to sit and listen. But then I feel lonely and isolated. Does everyone feel this way?
As a life coach for over 20 years, I have noticed that my clients are looking for more than insights or pearls of wisdom; they want a guarantee that they can trust that they will not have to vie for someone’s attention, that they will be heard a…
Jealousy: The Green-Eyed Monster
Dear Jane,
How can I let go of resentment towards my mother for being thin and lose weight myself?
I wanted to answer this question because, even if weight is not everyone’s issue, resentment and jealousy torture most of us at one time or another.
Jealousy is an indicator that we believe someone else has something that we cannot attain. We may experience jealousy about someone’s looks, their financial status, their popularity/success, or their personal life. But it a…
Learning To Love Ourselves
Our doubt concerning our self-worth is the main obstacle to our emotional and inter-relational harmony. This doubt is the cause of our greatest fears such as being rejected, laughed at, ignored, unloved, and most of all, of being alone.
Loneliness and Doubt
Loneliness is the disease of our age, and its cause is self-doubt. Fear of being alone is perhaps our most ancient one. It comes from the fact that in the past, he who was not accepted was ostracized from the group. …
Self-acceptance And Self-improvement
The first grader
Perhaps the example of children in grade school will help us to understand this. These children in the first grade do not reject themselves because they are not in a higher grade, or because they do not know as much, or are not as capable as those children in the higher grades. They accept themselves as they are, and are happy with themselves with their present level of abilities and knowledge.
Yet, no child would accept remaining in the same grade the …
Teen Chat : 5 Choices You Can Make Today!
Hi Teens:
As a teen, you naturally want more independence from your parents and the freedom to go places you want and do things you like.
Since your parents are responsible for you until you are on your own, part of their job is to decide whether or not they feel comfortable when you do certain things like staying out later, going to parties, and being with people they don’t know. At times, you may not think you have any choices at all. As a result, you may feel frust…
Teen Chat: 4 Steps To Have A Great Body Image
Hi Teens:
If we were to do a survey that asked how many of us feel happy with our bodies, what percentage do you think would answer, “I am happy with how my body looks?”
Research done about body image shows that women are much more critical of their appearance than men. They are much less likely to like what they see in the mirror. Eight out of ten women will be dissatisfied with their reflection, and more than half may see a distorted image.* Young women need more self…
Teen Chat: 7 Ways O Believe In Yourself – Part 2
Hi Teens:
Check out a better way to look at yourself!
Here are some examples of adjectives to describe a better way of thinking about yourself. Throw out those old, dark sunglasses you have been wearing and put on a pair of new, super, great-quality sunglasses that will let you see yourself in a much better light!
Alert Appreciative Attentive
Caring Compassionate Considerate Courteous Curious
Determined Dependable Disciplined
Endurable Enthusiastic
Fair…
Teen Chat: 7 Ways To Believe In Yourself – Part 1
Hi Teens:
“I could never do that,” Vicky replied when her friend Tara told her that she was going to run for Student Council President.
Steve said to Derek, “I am going to try out for the school volleyball team, are you?”
Derek had been practicing for several weeks, and he had a good chance of making the team, but he was thinking, ”What if I don’t make it? I would feel awful. Cory even said just the other day that I am no good at volleyball.”
Have you ever said o…