Speaking Your Truth to Your Partner
Mark sought my help because he was thinking of leaving his wife, Linda. He had not been feeling in love with Linda for a long time, but they had two children and he really didn’t want to break up the family.
“Mark,” I asked, “Were you ever in love with Linda?”
Why Do People Lie?
Amanda and Ron had been married for six years and had two small children. I had counseled them during some difficult times in their marriage, but had not heard from them for a while. Then Amanda scheduled an emergency phone session with me. She was very upset.
Dealing With Criticism And Difference In Opinion
Why this is important
We often become emotionally disturbed during a disagreement, or an argument, or when someone criticizes us or disagrees with us. In such cases our personality usually feels hurt, demeaned and in danger.
When we feel this way, we destroy our own happiness, clarity and health and often behave in ways which we later regret.
A simple technique for gaining clarity is to:
1. Remember that concerning criticism, there are two possibilities:
a. The…
Loving Those Who Are Behave Egotistically Or Are Cold And Unfeeling
Why do we lose our love when others are behaving egotistically? What is the danger for us? We might answer that it is natural not to love an egotistical person. But what is our danger here? Are we losing self-worth, security, freedom, control or pleasure? Perhaps we are offended by our own egotism that reflects in the others’ behavior?
If the others were five years old, would we be offended and outraged by their egotistical behavior? Or would we continue to love them, whil…
Loving Those Who Seek To Suppress And Control Us.
We lose our love for those who want to control, suppress or use us when we believe that:
a. Others want to control me.
b. I must do what others want in order to have their love and be safe.
c. I am in danger if I do not do what others want.
d. I cannot love someone who does not do what I want and thus others will not love me if I do not do what they want.
e. I am the victim.
f. I will not be a good person if I say no.
g. I am weak and cannot protect myself.
h. …
Peace, The Balm To Soothe Troubled Lives And Times
In his masterpiece, “Man’s Search for Meaning,” Viktor Frankl writes, “Every age has its own collective neurosis and every age needs its own psychotherapy to cope with it.” There is a collective neurosis in our world today, it is the cry for peace emanating from individuals, groups, communities and nations, impacting the mass consciousness.
The cries and marches for peace, power and freedom that marked recent decades, present a backdrop for today’s human conditions of st…
When Does Your Belief Become The Truth?
Ever wondered why some people turn anything they touch into gold; while other people fail even before they attempt something?
Most people would simply call it luck; perhaps saying, “you’re just lucky.” And if they weren’t pleased with the outcome, it’s a “bummer.” You might hear, “well, try another time and it may work out.”
What do these statements tell us? They carry hints into the beliefs behind our thoughts. Obviously, it is presumed that we have no control of the o…
Why Is Spiritual Truth So Elusive?
Why is spiritual truth so elusive? I have been pondering hard on this subject for quite sometime. And the article is my thought on this subject.
Motivation By Facing Facts
Some of the greatest truths are the most obvious. But they are also the most overlooked. This article takes a look at the importance of facing the facts and accepting that more usually needs to be done to complete whatever we are doing.
It is very easy to kid ourselves that we have done something or finished something when we haven’t. We need to be motivated by taking a thorough look at whatever we are doing to check that it really is finished and finished well.
Only a Passing Glance
Many of today’s thinkers, scientists and physicists are beginning to express the view that the greatest discoveries going forward will be along spiritual lines. Here is a force which history now clearly teaches has been the greatest power in the development of mankind.